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How I Like My Bananas and Why You Should Move the **** On!!!

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This is going to be quick and unfortunately a little dirty because I feel I have said this in some sort of way before * ( Dead Friendships in a Chinese Bathroom... ) * but hey! Coming home... So recently I have been struggling to deal with people around me, specifically people and their expectations of me, from me and consequently frustrations when am unable to meet them. Am not here to say sorry or anything in that regard, naaaa... all I want remind you is that; disappointment is inevitable, its part of the game and life is full of disappointments. - if you are looking for solace, my boy Benji recently wrote a great piece on ' doors closing ' that may soothe your wounds.   You go into a thing expecting this and you get that. You go into a thing, not even knowing what the thing is or if am being polite not speaking up for yourself to start with and you get what you get. Heck sometimes you both agree on a thing but shit just happens - that is LIFE!  But nooooo.... you my darling
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It is My Life - Don't Barge In, Please Knock...

 "Don't you think you should get a job, Bolanle? Won't you apply for this bank job, in the newspapers, Bolnale? Didn't you see the handsome boy that was looking at you, Bolanle?" - Bolanle, The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives There are a couple of directions we could take with this, but then again.... but then again, what is the point? People talk! That is what we do, we talk and we give our opinions. We make sure we are heard even in the absence of voice. It is estimated that in the span of an average day, an individual speaks 7000 words. For context, 7000 is within the word limit for a short story. But anyway...  So what is the problem? Lets see, you are not comfortable with my relationship status, you did not quite like my tone in the email , I spoke too little and then too much, I could have used words with fewer syllables, the choice of my clothes bothers you a little and you believe I could have given you more attention the other evening.  Now here is
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A Bunch of Thoughts on Handling Discomfort, Change, Finding Rest & Happiness

Beauty  just like sadness has an infinite range and the only way to  accurately grasp it all is to imagine - Alex Pierce, A Brief History of Seven Killings.  I have always said that I struggle to write in the sunny moments of my life, my excuse has always been that I am too busy enjoying them. This unfortunately is not the piece to buck the trend but it does promise it 😏.  First off, this has been an exciting year, full of all the right juices and oomph. However, it has been underlined with a need to pussyfoot, it has been serenaded with an undying whisper of imminent distress. Because of that, the experiences that I have had, the lessons and information that I have had to take on will never leave me. They will never leave because they took root in places where youth and all its liberties once stood.  Change It has also been a year of change and growth and certainly not without its fair share of pain as is expected with the push to occupy 'new' spaces. We will
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There are things...

“That was how it was, sometimes. You put yourself in front of the thing and waited for whatever was going to happen and that was all. It scared you and it didn't matter. You stood and faced it. There was no outwitting anything.  Sometimes you looked the thing in the eye and it turned away. Sometimes it didn't. -  She had learned, in her life, that time lived inside of you. You are time, you breathe time" - Almodine, The Story of Edgar Sawtelle. We are speaking about this again. I am writing about this again, I am writing to you about my regrets, I am writing to you about things that happened, regrettable things, things I had control over and yet I still let them happen - I am writing about choosing the less pleasant path. Yesterday was difficult, seeing you was difficult. Even though I had gone through it in my mind & felt very comfortable with my choices, seeing you made me doubt it all. Was it the right thing to do? Was there another way? And even wi
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Dead Friendships in a Chinese Bathroom...

Please give me a few more minutes, let me give it another shot, I can do better . You guys are all I have got, I need you... he begged. Why will you not concede? We know where this is going, this is what you should do - they retorted. Rusty circles and a handful of raw lemons - they offered! When you are closer to 30 or over it, everything you do has got to be objective - it really has to be! From the food you eat, the money you spend, the words you say and more importantly the relations you keep. There is really no time to go around on taste runs, it is expected that you should have refined your taste and opinions, that your character is defined to some level. I had long given up on the idea of a 'best friend' a long long time ago after 'my boy' turned out not to be my boy after all - in its place I chose multiple friends who offered me a little bit of everything with very little effort exerted at a time. I felt that this was the safer approach. I now didn&#
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An uncomfortable silence...

I like you, he said - I like you too she replied. At that moment he opened up his eyes and allowed her to look straight inside him. He let her make her way up, through the maze of his nerves. He let her crawl up his veins until she found his soul- And at that moment they had found it, -They had reached the uncomfortable silence only it was not uncomfortable.
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The Tribe to Harry...

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There comes a time in life when life becomes life, when the chips are grounded, when the supposedly fat lady has had her tune and fate has shown her elusive face. We are at such a time and while we may not understand the change in tide, we will celebrate the moment in true tribal grandiose like we know how to. Tonight we celebrate a man, tonight we toast to a marvelously marvelous character, we celebrate a man we have grown to love with a dash of hot pepper to taste. Here is to you Harry, a true man's man, you have become a friend to all of us and we are honored to to call you a brother. May the good times roll and may God's face shine ever so brightly upon you and your jeune family. A la votre sante!
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